Mercury Retrograde April 29 - May 21 2016 - Questioning & reflecting on values & resources

It's that time again, Mercury starts its retrograde phase for the next few weeks from April 29 - May 21 2016. If you've been following me for a while, you know i don't make too much of a big deal about retrogrades, especially Mercury Rx in Taurus. This is an Earth sign, so you're not going to get electrical "breakdowns" or any other communication, electric issues that you often hear about when Mercury is retrograde, even though no matter what sign, it's usually mostly hype anyway.

Taurus is extremely stable energy, no need to make a big fuss over Mercury Retrograde. Plus you need to remember that these transits in the sky are only reflecting universal background themes but they don't effect everyone the same. If you have any issues with Mercury retrograde, then it's because Mercury is making a unique alignment to one of your personal planets or points. That would be the reason you might experience any kind of inconvenience from Mercury Rx, not because of the general direction.

Also, remember that planets don't actually ever move backwards, it's just an illusion from the earth's perspective. You can't say that about planet alignments, as those alignments are 100% fact, but retrogrades, however, are not. It's simply an illusion, so you can choose to run with that illusion as much or as little as you want. We are finally starting to get past the"supermoon" hype that came about the last few years, i'm still patiently awaiting for people to get a grip with the retrograde phenomenon.

With that said, this Mercury Rx phase through Taurus, in general, is about getting an opportunity to reflect on where you are mentally stuck on something in life, too stubborn to accept new ways of doing things. It's about reflecting on current resources and values in your life with a need to incorporate new perspectives. You might have to communicate some of your updated values to others. Your value system, traditional mindset and stubbornness, etc could be holding you back from manifesting the new abundance your life is ready for at this point. This Mercury Rx phase has a lot to do with reflecting on money issues, and resources of all kinds. It's time to check your updated values and see if you need to make adjustments in order to successfully move forward. However, that forward movement will be slow coming as we get a chance to reflect on some important matters first.

We need to look deep, so we can understand how to manifest new abundance into our life for 2016 and beyond. We can't manifest what's not in alignment with our current values.

Look at your chart and find where Taurus is on the cusp. This will be the area of your life (house) that gets some extra reflection time, with some delays and new information before new progress. Here is a brief interpretation on what this might mean for you personally based on the area of life transit Mercury is in.

If transit Mercury Rx is in your 1st house, then it's about reflecting on your personal values and desires for yourself, regarding your style, clothes, expressions, what you show off to the world, and what you identify yourself with, materially; what you "think" you need to have in order to express you individuality.

Mercury Rx transit 2nd house - You'll get time to reflect on your current financial needs, stuff that you want, along with what you think you need in order to feel safe and secure on the material level of life. Reflecting on & communicating what you need to feel pleasure in life might take up your time next few weeks. Your personal values will need to be checked and updated. What is most important to you at this time in your life? Give it a few weeks, the answers will come. Waiting on money or personal resources to come in is also possible.

Mercury Rx transit 3rd house - You'll be getting time to reflect on intellectual values, materialistic stuff like, what vehicle you want or need, electronic items like phones, computers, etc. Also reflecting on the value of some of your friendships, connections, siblings, neighbors or people you network with. What is your most valuable intellectual pursuit at this time? Stuff like that. There will be some delays as you figure out what you want, or figure out that you actually don't want it.

Mercury Rx transit 4th house - Reflecting on the value of home life stuff and family. pondering new home perhaps or remodeling, general materialistic upgrades to home and family life. What do you find most valuable about home and family life? Is there something in need of change, but you are too stubborn and fixed in your ways, to do what needs to be done in order for improvements? Home life information will come in that allows for adjustments and changes.

Mercury Rx transit 5th house - All things pleasurable and sensual is fun, like recreation, camping, romance, food, parties, etc. Perhaps you need to reflect on what brings you joy in life on the material level. Money issues involving children or other creative materialistic interests could be on the mind for a while before new understanding sets in. Find what you value about being on earth, do more of it but any plans along these lines will need more time to be figured out.

Mercury transit Rx 6th house - Reflecting on what you value for your everyday routine of life. Pondering issues involving how much work you need to do in order to get the amount of money you need and value. Reflecting on and dealing with any health matters you might have, waiting for more information, etc. before any health issues are resolved or understood. It's really about reflecting on your values to see how much time you want to exchange for money. 

Mercury Rx transit 7th house - Time to reflect on the value of your most important relationships and partnerships. Also the materialistic aspect of your partnerships and figuring out better resource balance in that. You could have to wait on info to arrive regrading new partnerships in financial matters between you and someone else.  How willing are you to compromise some of your needs in order to make this partnership work?

Mercury Rx transit 8th house - Refection on and waiting for other people's resources to come in. Reflecting on what you value with other people. Reflecting on needed changes in the way you are currently merged with other people's life. Getting clear and updated with your most inner core values of life, that money can't buy and dealing with the materialistic side of change and separation from others, including inheritance and settlements issues. Give this a few weeks before getting answers.

Mercury Rx transit 9th house - Reflecting on a possible long distance trip that you find of value. Reflecting on your current beliefs about money and the world, and how you fit into that. Updating your values when it comes to what new knowledge you might need in order to progress yourself to get what you want. Waiting for information to see if you got accepted or qualify for something you want and value. Stuff like that.

Mercury Rx transit 10th house - Work, career and reputation gets time for reflection. Is your public life or career in alignment with your current values? You might have to wait on new information to arrive about getting a new job, or some other public event you will be involved in, which could see delays for the next few weeks. Rethinking your career values and money issues that you deal with as a vocation is in order. Some public event might need some rethinking time.

Mercury Rx transit 11th house - Groups, friends, organizations, your hopes and dreams all need some time for reflection before new developments can happen. What do you need from friendships at this point, how valuable are these people to your life? Do they fit in with your hopes and dreams that you wish to manifest? Are you being too stubborn in your group. You might have to wait for information to come in before knowing if something that you want to do in a group context will happen. Things start moving forward into June. Have patience. 

Mercury Rx transit 12th house - You might have to reflect on general materialistic life. Perhaps you are someone that doesn't want people to know that you actually value materialism, only partaking in that indulgence privately from behind the scenes. What mental or physiological blocks to you have about money and pleasure? You might have a lot of fantasy about getting some things you want for the next few weeks, allow this to show you how life can become more pleasurable by materialism. It doesn't make you a bad person, we are human, therefore are meant to experience and partake in the materialistic world. Rethink where you are stuck in a negative perception on the material world.

You might also have this Mercury Rx phase personalized if you have energy points around 13 -24 degrees Taurus, Scorpio, Leo or Aquarius. Whatever the planet you have that Mercury is aligning with should show what is needing more time before new information arrives, and yes, there could be a few mishaps, miscommunication or other annoyances if Mercury Rx makes challenging alignment to you personally. But it won't be for everyone.

Mercury does a rare transit in front of the sun May 9, but you will need special equipment to see. Astrologically, it means a day of important communication highlighted that perhaps opens doors for future developments in these areas Mercury is in transit through. Important information should arrive on that day, but you will still need more time before that information makes a difference.

That's about the gist of it. I'm not going to tell you to hide, not start anything or be ready for electronic/ mental breakdowns. That would take too much energy and change for a stubborn ass like Taurus, which is highly unlikely.  But if you are into the astrology hype of retrogrades disaster, you might want to ask yourself why you would want to align yourself with that negative thinking if not needed. Do airplanes fall out of the sky when Mercury is Rx? All the biggest breakdowns of cars, trains, computers, phones, etc happens when Mercury is Rx? Nope. At worst, your mind is deeply focused on something, making small surface mishaps possible from your own mind being distracted, but if you're conscious to and stay aware to surface life as you go about your day, you have nothing to worry about, unless Mercury is making hard alignment with you personally, which then negative news or inconvenience could arrive, but only to help you get what you really want. So trust the process and don't be a stubborn ass.

Good luck,
Rik.

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Interpretation of what each Rising Sign needs from their partner

Your astrology chart says a whole lot about your partnership needs, but if we could simplify things to get a basic idea and framework of what each person is needing from their partner at the most basic level first, before understanding any of their other complexities within that - well then, we would look to the Ascendant and 7th house of your chart.

Here is a very brief interpretation of what each different Rising Sign needs the most from their partner, on the most basic level before anything else (in general - and i should say -very general). These are not necessarily the traits you are most attracted to which is based on your Venus, Mars, moon, etc, rather it's what type of partner that will fit best with you on basic level of every day life. This will mostly be true the first half of life, but you also might want to find out your progressed Rising Sign that is usually a sign or two after your natal Rising Sign which could indicate your updated partnership needs at this point in your life.  So if one doesn't seem to fit, check the following sign.

So here's the basics:

Aries Rising - This person needs fairness, objectivity and equality from their partner, allowing them to be self, so they can follow their own path freely. They need a partner that will bring more beauty into their life with the willingness to communicate issues diplomatically, even if that's not their own natural style. Aries Rising is already brave, independent and full of personal freedom, so they need a partner willing to accept that while offering a balanced harmonized beautiful partnership, honoring self needs just as much as partner needs.

Taurus Rising - These people already have a good sense of value for themselves, along with having what they need to feel safe and secure on the material level. They need a partner that will offer value of a deeper substance, like emotional intensity, frequent sex, loyalty, passion, and a sense of having personal authority; someone whom is powerful & in control of their life. They are not necessarily needing a partner to be rich or bring them everything they ever wanted in life. They need a partner that wants to fully merge as one and control their destiny together.

Gemini Rising-  This youthful playful person needs a partner willing to travel both short and far, having and allowing for a sense of humor, being optimistic, adventurous and a seeker of higher truths. They need to be with someone that has faith in them and in the partnership, someone whom will allow this person freedom to learn and grow, while keeping a positive outlook on the future.

Cancer Rising - On the most basic level, Cancer Rising people need a partner that will provide some stability and practicality in life matters, having long term ambitions, most likely in business, family and is an authority in the world or in the relationship, sometimes being older which will help secure and add structure to the Cancer's life. This person already has a good sense of emotional sensitivity, care and nurturing for themselves, they are not necessarily needing that as much from their partner(in general) as you would think. Having a wise and mature partner helps keep the Cancer's emotional sensitivity grounded & healthy, helping them to feel protected, safe and secure. 

Leo Rising - This is the fun expressive star rising person, they don't need their partner to be that. This person needs a partner that is willing to give them a sense of freedom from rules in the union with emotional detachment in the partnership so that they can focus of their own passions and creative ambitions, not getting too weighed down by the other. They need partner that is willing to do things differently, be an odd ball, eccentric, intelligent & innovative, and most of all, be a good friend while allowing the Leo, to be all that as well.

Virgo Rising - Let's see...this person needs to have a partner that has faith in them and vice versa, whom is dreamy and romantic about the union. They need a partner that is okay with their devotion and romantic desire to sacrifice self in order to heal and stabilize the partner in some way; someone whom allows their own sense of imagination, sensitivity and compassion to emerge while together. This Virgo needs that compassion and sensitivity from the partner because Virgo Rising is already much too practical and critical with themselves, they don't need a partner to reinforce that. Sometimes, they just need someone whom they can save and help with routine matters on a daily basis, often finding themselves with broken people, addicts or the starving artists.

Libra Rising - This person needs a partner that will give them a sense of personal freedom and independence within the union, not being too co-dependent. What they need from their partner is someone whom is confident, has courage, directness, and motivation to pursue their own calling, while having fun adventures both together and separately. Also Libra Rising needs a lot of passion from partner, one whom is aggressive and does the sexual initiating. All other personal needs from partner will fall within this framework.

Scorpio Rising - What this person needs from their partner most is material security and safety, along with a good dose of pleasure. Scorpio Rising is here to be a mystic, sorcerer or someone whom delves deep into the under currents of reality and within themselves, they don't need a partner to be on that level. Rather, they need someone that is grounded and practical that offers financial security, less intense than themselves and someone whom shows great value for the union, maybe even needing a possessive partner, and a great deal of sexual pleasure from them. Perhaps someone that can cook well too and enhances their physical life.

Sagittarius Rising- These folks need adaptability from their partner along with a good amount of variety in what the couple does on a daily basis. They need partner to be communicative about issues, have a lot of intellect and information that the Sag Rising might over-look at times.  They need to be able to go on short trips with the partner, while having fun, being playful and witty. The partner might have a sense of youthfulness about them in some way that would fit well with Sag allowing their own child-like behavior to express when together, nothing too deep or serious for the basic framework. Not all, but some Sag Risings needs such a variety with other people that a partner with two different distinct sides at different times of the year could work, along with a partner willing to explore a variety of sexual activity, and let's not rule out 3some's early in life, depending on other personal alignments.

Capricorn Rising - This person worries about real life practical matters so much including the future and if they are doing enough in the present moment, that they need a partner willing to be a homebody, taking care of, and nurturing them on many levels including emotionally. They like to help balance out the sensitivity of their partner with their own sense of wisdom and maturity. Cap Rising can be so uptight and traditional at times that a sensitive nurturing partner will help them feel comfortable expressing the more sensitive traits while together. Cap Rising is the business person with long tern ambitions, they don't need that from their partner, but rather someone whom takes care of home life while they work.

Aquarius Rising - This person needs loyalty from their partner and someone whom is creative, joyful and fun. Aquar Rising already is somewhat detached emotionally, (depending on moon) they don't need that from partner. They need passion, and sometimes even drama from partner, someone that enhances their own sense of creativity and flare. They need a partner with good style and whom they can show off to the world. This partner helps bring more heart,  fun and recreation to Aquarius Rising's life.

Pisces Rising - This person needs a grounded practical organized health conscious partner to help ground out this illusive imaginative Pisces Rising that can sometimes fall into addictions or fantasy. They don't need a dreamer, rather someone with a lot of intellect and devotion to them. Pisces Rising needs a partner willing to serve them, and that will be extra helpful with routine daily chores and work so the Pisces has time to get lost in creative inspiration. This should be the basic framework before anything else.

So there you go. You might look at your partner's Rising sign both natal and progressed to see what they need from you, before anything else. This could help you understand them a little better, but of course, the full chart will tell you full story. This is just one small piece of it that will need to be adjusted by any planets in your 1st and 7th houses along with the placements of your Venus, Mars and moon, etc.

Thanks for reading.

Libra Born on Oct 4 -Finger of God message 111111

Later tonight after 2 am or so pacific time transit Mercury will form a Finger of God aspect with Neptune directed at people born on Oct 4, give or take a day. This aspect is known to be fated, also called a Yod

This can be interpreted many different ways, but the first thing i would say, is don't drink tonight, stay clear because something unusual could happen. The low side of this could be indulgence into drink or drugs because Taurus is involved adding the physical element, while the moon changes signs into emotionally protective Cancer, and the lovers, Venus/Mars are connecting as well. Don't do anything you'll regret later. I wouldn't suggest driving or losing reality too much tonight into tomorrow. That's the low side, but for higher vibration people it could be much different.

 Mercury moving into a sextile with Neptune for everyone, increases intuitive, spiritual communication, spiritual awareness, imagination, pleasurable sounds like music and tones, pleasurable mental escapes like movies, books, etc. There seems to be something very powerful and spiritual about this intuitive communication alignment tonight, all at 11 degrees. Perhaps Venus and Mars connect and communicate without touch or words, or things said that are not said. The moon in Cancer, could activate emotional sensitivity wanting to protect from vulnerability... Then again, it could all just be a doped up good time on chocolate or something. idk. But if you're a spiritual person, tonight is excellent for that and for intuition. What might you hear tonight?

But if your sun is at 11 degrees Libra, or if you have any other personal energy points at 11 Libra, then you're at the Apex of this fated communication coming at you within the next 24 hrs. This could be a fated spiritual message of some kind, a realization, new awareness about something, seeing something, dreams, communication with other realms,etc, although with Mercury in Taurus, and the Apex in Libra while Venus and Mars are connecting, it's probably related to relationship communication...maybe even, unspoken, yet delivered? Maybe the message comes to you in the form of dreams tonight. Or perhaps the message is written in the symbols that are around you later tonight, or now...I'm just giving ideas here. This could be anything. All i can say for sure, is that it's fated for 11 Libra, That has message on the way, strongest possibility for the sun person born Oct 4.

Check your chart for anything around  11 Libra - 11 11. in the relationship sign...

If you were born on Oct 4, feel free to come back and leave comment if you had anything happen. I would be very curious to know.

Enjoy the magical night, may the lovers unite in other worldly ways..

Transit Venus on a new path of enlightenment, but will she get caught up in the shadow web? April 2016

This post is dedicated to transit Venus. I'm going to be watching over her extra close as we approach the up-coming Scorpio full moon on April 21. Venus's energy is playing a very important role in matters that will unfold over the next couple weeks. The planetary transits are always a complex mix of energy dynamics playing out in every moment, reflecting universal background themes, but not everyone feels these energies the same. It all depends on the alignments relative to you, personally. Regardless if felt or manifested, these general themes are playing out in some area within your life.

Transit Venus reflects feminine energy, relationship dynamics, resources and the current universal attraction & desire theme, including what's of value right now. (Aries--freedom & Independence). She's also the chart ruler for Libra Rising and Taurus Rising so her position in the sky at any given moment has a strong influence for those people, as well as sun/moon Libra or Taurus people in general, and to everyone on a lesser level to some extent.

When transit Venus aligns with one of your energy points, it's indicating this type of energy is effecting you personally, for good or bad, depending on the type of alignment you're caught in.

So here's the deal. Find the area in your chart that has Aries - this is where this dynamic is happening for you. Is it at your work? (6th or 10th house), with groups or friends (11th house), with important partners? (7th house), or maybe privately, hidden, secret? (8th house)...or just in fantasy? (12th house), etc..

We just had a very important new moon on April 7 in Aries at 18 degrees conjunct Uranus at 20 degrees. This is a new beginning for self, taking back power that's been given away and doing things more independently, unique and fresh, owning your own authority.  Two weeks later on April 21 we have a Scorpio full moon at 2 degrees, and the sun opposite in Taurus, which Venus rules. Venus will be on the Aries new moon/Uranus degree at time of full moon!

So here's a Venus story for you, how i see things shaping up, in general. As we build up to the full moon, Venus is initiating positive creative fire alignments with Mars. This allows for creation to manifest when these two sexual polarities are aligned, working together. Sexual tension and desire therefore is on the increase. These sexual positive alignments are happening inside each person, even if you are single, and want to stay that way. Sexual energy is creative energy. This creative force is in your Aries house and Sagittarius house right now, also if you have points in Leo, they align well with that too. So, say Sag or Aries is your 9th house - then this activity could manifest in your school or educational environment, or in places far away that you're not currently at, or online, etc. Wherever area of life that house is for you, will have some hot energy for a while.

Therefore, this next full moon will be emotionally intense, passionate, transforming, raw, sexual, enlightening and freeing with the opportunity for finding more value in certain ways/areas of your life, that before you weren't able to have, perhaps. This includes finding value in the shadow/under-world, energies, and let's not forget the physical pleasure realms, in all of its many forms. This path that brings your hidden, deeper values and desires to the surface, helping you gain more enlightenment and create what you want and value these days, won't be an easy one over the next couple weeks. There could also be a lot of shadow activity, walking fine line of boundaries or secret actions that could cause turbulence for your life as Mars stations in square to Neptune. Careful that Venus (you) doesn't get caught in this peculiar shadowy web of desire being created.

Let's not forget about Pluto lingering in the dark....waiting for his prey..

Venus trine Mars - April 12 2016 - 12:22 pm west coast - opportune time for cooperation between the sexual polarities, symbolic of Venus telling Mars what she wants, and she probably does it in a confident assertive seductive way, that gets results. Great for creative expression, literal sexual pleasure, or both.

April 15/16 moon waxes forward in Leo (after recent 1st quarter square with sun challenges the days before) and forms Grand Fire Trine with Venus, Mars and Saturn, later trine Sun, Uranus. Very emotionally fun, creative, supportive time, keeping Venus happy.

April 18 Venus trine Saturn - Socially & romantically, energy gets a little more serious and mature, perhaps focused on only one or two important people at this time, with a positive connection, testing perhaps, what is possible; what she' can or can't get away with while creating in this waxing momentum flow of desire.


April 19 - trouble alert - Energy turns deep, relationship dynamics get intense, as the sun in Aries at most critical point of action, moves into 0 deg Taurus, while ruler Venus square Pluto. This indicates a big shift to the focus as a powerful change is happening within your social, love, or financial life. Power plays, someone or status quo trying to hold her back, possessing Venus. She symbolically refuses(lets hope) to surrender her sense of freedom, desire and individuality to Pluto's control and authority, whether that's within self or manifested by real people or situations in your outer life, it's there. Either way, this control is coming from your Capricorn house (area of life)...

This is big moment in relationship and money energy - Venus's 1st quarter square with Pluto- jealousy, possessiveness, suspicion, manipulation, sexual situations, using sex as power, and so on. Stay? or break away? or down in a dirty way? Remember, personal authority in your life is allowing for personal freedom in context of self desires, relationships and money matters. Do you really want that person or org to have power over you because you owe them money? Or can you find more Independence in these ways?

Your call.

From this point energy is still waxing forward, emotional tension and intensity is building until reaching fulfillment and enlightenment on the full moon April 21. Venus is crossing the new moon degree these few days until conjunct Uranus on April 22 where the radical new beginning for self started last new moon should be showing results by now and making Venus feel very rebellious and excited. This day is radical for personal desires, relationships, money matters, etc, could be surprises, sudden changes, gains or losses. A transformation to all these types of matters in your life, (especially if Venus strongly influences you) is very likely around this time. Relationships are a little unstable, but still not as bad as past rebellions, but still could face sudden changes.

April 22 -Around full moon and next day, Venus energy will be at her most radical, but sun and Mercury in Taurus keeping things somewhat stable perhaps, yet still a wild day with radical unusual attractions and desires for this feminine energy. Taurus energy needs the good things about life, that feels nice to all the physical senses, and that brings security. So conflicting pulls. Keep it safe, making this a one time thing', or courageously doing things a different way from now on. Venus will do what she has to do, to get what she needs, or at least what she thinks she needs, even if only for these recent few days. It's much easier for her to break "rules". But will the rebellion last?

April 29 Venus reaches 29 degrees Aries, she's so free and enlightened at this point, having new values, both dark and light, wanting to enjoy all these new physical pleasures and freedoms awaiting her in the future, after a taste of creativity and empowerment. She moves into Taurus late on April 29, but instantly slows all this action down, reflects more traditional values and starts to become more turned on by money and all things physical, that brings real pleasure & security. She's done fighting for the freedom and power to be self, for now. You either have this new sense of freedom within you at this point forward, or you gave it up, in all the wrong ways, going back to just dreaming of the next opportune cycle to truly be free. This test is indeed a cycle. There's always next year.

Things with Venus pretty much mellow out from this point on. It was a crazy ride" i'm sure she'll say as she looks back at Aries, then forward to Taurus. (if the planet Venus could talk). She realizes the need for some stability and security. Oh, yeah, that's why this power game keeps going around and around; security. The rebel might be exciting and all, but unless that rebel can provide, his days might be over, for her, until next Aries season arrives. Or, perhaps the freedom was too sweet to let go of...

I hope this Venus story made some sense. She's within all of us, somewhere.

Please do, break free of control. 3rd quarter square with Pluto is about surrender. But this is the first quarter -pushing thru those control challenges in the name of personal freedom. Of course, while being thoughtful of others and your current obligations as well.

Enjoy the hot creative energy building. Use your power wisely, and create with it.

Relationship Astrology - The Progressed Composite Chart Moon

When it comes to relationship astrology, the charts between two people pretty much say the full story - past present and future. There is many different techniques and charts that can be used to analyze a relationship.  Before i get into my most trusted technique i will say it's important to analyze each individual chart as a person first, before understanding the two people in a connection. After that, it's best to do natal chart comparison so to fully understand the synastry which is what shows the chemistry between two people.


However, the relationship astrology technique i'm going to show you here is about analyzing the relationship itself, and not the connection or chemistry between the two individuals. I want to introduce you to the composite chart, both natal and progressed. This chart is created by finding the midpoints between each person's planets of the same kind, showing what 3rd energy is created when those two people are with each-other. Some astrologers say that a relationship first has to be formed before the composite chart is activated and valid, but i find this not to be true, although it's only useful after they have formed the relationship, but still always working under the surface before and after they unite no matter if they know it or not.

The natal composite chart between two people is like a blue-print of the energy of the relationship in the biggest, most wide perspective possible- the fullest potential and shows what the over-all purpose of the relationship is for. Time after time, I've seen a relationship form between two people when the composite and progressed composite is being activated at a critical point by transits or progressions, so is valid and activated no matter if a relationship is already formed or not. This is not just about romantic relationship, this process i will explain is good to use for analyzing relationships of all kinds.  Are you and your child about to go thru a challenging phase? This chart would tell.

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This is an extensive report where I look at several different charts about your relationship, including both birth charts, your synastry together, composite chart and the progressed composite chart.

First let me show you an example of a natal composite chart:

This chart shows the over-all relationship of a man and a woman. It's showing the big picture view and purpose which the sun is the indicator of that purpose and focus of the connection. The Rising sign, shows how these two people express the relationship along with how other people perceive them together, while the moon shows what the relationship is emotionally hungry for along with the couple's circumstances when uniting. Of course the other planets tell more of the story as well. I don't want to get deep into this chart as my main purpose for this article is to talk about the Progressed composite chart and how i find it the most useful and valid.


Remember, the natal composite chart is showing the full story no matter what point in time the couple meet. This chart is valid between the two people from the time they are born until they die, it never changes. That's the difference between a natal composite chart and the progressed composite chart; the progressed composite does change, always, never fixed in place.

A progressed composite chart (my main technique ) is when you progress each individual natal chart to the current moment in time. This shows where a person is at in life relative to where they were at birth, and how far their energies have evolved and matured with experience over time. So, in regards to relationships, it would make sense then to find the midpoints between these progressed energies in the people, and what relationship energy is formed right now in this moment of time, when they are together. This is a very useful tool for knowing where a relationship is at and what phases it will go through in the future.

Now, let's say this couple has just met for the first time a year ago. If we create a progressed composite chart for them in this moment, we will see where this relationship is at in context to the big picture natal composite chart and why they have just formed a new relationship a year ago. Are you following along with me here?

You can clearly see that the relationship energy is very different from the over-all path and purpose of the natal composite. This chart is showing the purpose of the union, right now, as the Rising shows how the couple perceives themselves together while the moon shows what the relationship is hungry for right now and what phase of that, they are currently in.
Venus shows what the couple desires when together, what they value, are attracted to, etc. Mercury- how they communicate when together. Saturn - where they have fears, restrictions and limitations; and so forth.



Now let me create a bi-wheel that shows the natal composite on the inside wheel and the progressed composite on the outside wheel.

In this view above, we can see how far each planet has moved relative to the birth placements and what aspects are being formed between both versions of the composite. The progressed composite moon only moves 1 degree a month, and since there is 30 degrees in each sign and house(area of life) then it would take about 2 1/2 years for the relationship moon to change signs and houses, which will change circumstances and what the relationship is hungry for. This couple has their progressed moon at 26 degrees Gemini in their natal composite 8th house. If they met a year ago, that means their progressed composite moon was at around 14 degrees Gemini in their natal 7th house of relationship entering their 8th house of change, sexuality, merging, etc. This makes sense, that the relationship would be created around this time in their life, when the moon phase for the couple enters the 7th house/8th house of partnership/merging for the first time as adults.

You can see their natal relationship moon is at 2 degrees Aquarius in the 3rd house, yet connected by sign to the 4th house. The relationship is hungry for communication, but also maybe a home and family appetite. That means the first time their progressed moon entered this area of the chart (7th house of partners), was at a very young age, still kids and perhaps not ready for the union. It would take a full 30 years + before their moon would enter this area of life(7th house) and bring them together. But there is also other indications of what brought them together for the first time a year ago, but this would be a very long post if i explained every single detail. I mainly want to show you the importance of the technique i use for knowing what a relationship will be facing in the future.

I do this by looking at the progressed composite moon. This is the most valuable tool for relationship prediction. Let's have a look at the progressed composite chart again.

Yep, this chart is the most telling in relationship astrology. This couple met and started a relationship when the progressed moon entered their progressed 7th house of partnership forming a "full moon" because of the progressed sun about to Rise opposite the moon. This is a rare phase that only happens for a few years every 30 years. This relationship full moon on the important axis of the 1st and 7th house is a very powerful aspect bringing the relationship consciousness and enlightenment about each-other. This is the climax, the point of most tension that forces results. When these two people are together, they really shine bright for all to see. The current purpose of the union (sun) is to unite and bring focus to each other, while helping each other gain more consciousness. The moon, in 7th house of Gemini is hungry for a communicative,info rich, playful, variety filled relationship. The composite progressed sun moves 1 degree a year.

So this is the start of my most valuable relationship analysis technique - using the progressed composite chart moon as an indicator of where the relationship is at right now, how long it will be there, and where it's going next. This means that relationships go through phases that last about 2 1/2 years each. It's very common for the energy between two people to change after a couple years, and often people break up after a couple years from the disappointment that things have changed from the beginning of when they met.

So, first you look at the sign and energy the progressed composite moon is in. 7th house Gemini; again, it's about forming a communicative relationship, yet in the context of the natal composite it's in the 8th house, so this communication will be about deep private hidden stuff, probably sexual in nature as well, very intimate no matter what. But Gemini is the sign of duality and so this could indicate their relationship takes on two very different routes, of communication partnership, at least.  We also want to look at the current aspects being formed by the moon. In this case, it's a "full moon" with a sextile to Saturn (commitment). 

If we want to track the progress and what will change in the near future for the relationship, then we look at what aspect the moon will make next. In this case above, the moon conjoins Jupiter and because of natal Jupiter being at 29 degrees, while progressed Jupiter is at 27 degrees, then this indicates the relationship will start a very abundant, optimistic positive educational and expansive connection starting in just over a week from now and lasting for the remaining phase of Gemini, the next 3 months before the relationship energy changes into a new sign but will still be in same house (7th) for 2 years before moving into 8th house of merging - although in natal composite the merging on some level is already indicated but in this view above is when the reality of that on the physical level will most likely happen, as far as life merging goes.

So this relationship started in a very light, playful, communicative, information rich energy of Gemini, but in just over 3 months, they start a new phase of Cancer which is connected to both 7th and 8th houses. This will change the relationship dynamics, big time. The relationship will be hungry for emotional partnership, more sensitive, nurturing, protective, etc. However, when we look at the natal composite that has the relationship Mercury conjunct Venus at the first few degrees of deep passionate Scorpio, we see the progressed moon in Cancer will make a trine aspect to both the natal Mercury and Venus in 3 months, indicating a real advancement in the passion. sweetness, desires, and emotional nurturing which will lead to changes in the relationship circumstances for the next 2.5 years after that, before starting a new phase in Leo 9th house for 2 .5 years after that, which will make the connection - fun, adventurous, traveling, joy, (sometimes children) along with other possibilities. 

This is why relationships are always changing, never staying the same energy for too long. The secret to partnerships is knowing and understanding this changing energy, embracing and accepting the growth that wants to happen. Yet, sometimes the changes can be for a real negative. This is when relationships will want to call it quits. However, if the couple knew that this was just a temporary negative phase for  2 or 3 years and would change once again after these lessons were brought to them, they might stay together and work it out. The only way to know this future changing energy is by analyzing this chart. Perhaps the couple have 2 or 3 different difficult phases in a row, lasting a decade. Would they want to continue knowing that? Or perhaps, they have been going through a rough time for a couple years, getting ready to break up, not knowing that the energy is about to change for a positive. If, only they had this hidden info...

We can take this analysis even further when adding current transits to this progressed composite chart, seen below.

This shows that the transit sun and transit Uranus (including the recent Aries new moon) are all in positive trine alignment with the progressed relationship's sun today. This is adding positive surprises, excitement, and focus on this developing connection. It's almost like the universe knew i was going to focus on them today; or was it the universe that caused me to focus on them today? hmmm ;-).

There is some tough square energy at same time from Pisces 4th house (the foundation of the couple) showing stress and tension, sensitivity and healing that might be connected to past life encounters. Transit Saturn on their Neptune, forcing them to ground any illusions about the relationship and their fantasies, or a need to make their dreams and fantasies, reality. Either way, they need to be mature and real about matters. 

I'm not going into full analysis, this is just to show you how i work with relationships, knowing what's to come.

You can also place each person's natal chart to the Progressed composite to see how each person relates, feels and thinks, etc about the connection. In truth, relationship astrology is very complex stuff that takes much time, looking at multiple charts. With that said, i still feel this technique of looking at the progressed composite chart moon between two people is the most telling for predictive work.

I hope you found this interesting. Thanks for reading, and good luck'

Rik

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Using Whole Signs House system for transits & new look at Venus/Neptune aspect

The thing about Astrology that I find the most problematic is house systems, with all the many different ways to divide up the chart, so we can see what energy is associated with each area of life. I'm not the first person to see this as a serious issue, the debate has been going on for a long time.

I started using equal houses from day one, based on the degree of the Ascendant, making every house cusp the same degree full 30. I do seem to check the popular placidus system too, but find both of these systems to work in parts, with different people or even in same chart but different areas while they don't work in other areas. I see a blending of different areas of life (houses), not just a fixed line.

The cusp of each house can't be trusted that much, since there is so many different ones that you could choose to use. The only sure way to know is if it's your own chart and look at all the different ways objectivity, figuring out which ones fit you the best. But again, i find one single system doesn't work for entire chart.

In the beginning of the ancient days of astrology, they didn't even use house systems. The signs determined the houses. Whatever sign was on the eastern horizon, would start the 1st house; simple as that. Astrology can get very complex, there is a never ending rabbit hole, tho sometimes, it's nice to simplify as well, which can give easy insight that we might have over-looked before when too focused in on the deep details.

If you are interested in following your transits through the different areas of your life, then you might try the "whole signs system" while not factoring in degree orbs or aspects besides the general signs in relation to each-other, like the chart I've created above. At least in addition to using other methods.

Using my own chart, i'll show you how this changes the perspective a bit. My natal chart seen through this perspective above, can give good insight when we add the transit placements around the chart. In most systems, my sun is in 10th house Libra, but in equal house and whole signs, Libra is my 11th house while Virgo becomes my 10th; and yet, Venus is the ruler of Libra, while Mercury in my Libra is the ruler of Virgo. This connects them together thru mutual reception. This alone would mean that my 9th, 10th and 11th houses are all involved in my 10th house areas of life - reputation, public image, vocation, etc. In addition, and just for fun, we can also make the connection by me being born on Oct 11 (10-11) also indicating house 10 and 11 are my most important areas of life.


Back to the astro. Both Libra and Virgo is my career, public image, etc and is where I'll find Venus(the good things about life ;) that also has a 9th house connection - far away from me, but connected to my public life and career, being at the top of my chart, she is very important to me. However, in this chart view above, we see that Neptune is in my Rising sign, at a 90 degree square angle to Venus in Virgo. Oh no. Although by aspect, this Neptune /Venus connection is only medium strength for me, and even less in my old age as i'm conscious to this influence now but in this version of chart analysis, that doesn't matter, it's just showing the influence. In most systems, Neptune is hidden in my 12th house side of Rising but using whole signs, we see the Neptune influence comes out in my Rising sign as a big factor in who i am and what i'm projecting and expressing myself as.

Having Neptune in this spot, it shows the element of illusion about who i am. This is the placement of a shapeshifter, that can be anyone, or blend into any surroundings. Neptune Rising would be similar to Pisces Rising. This indicates that people don't have a good solid idea of who i am at first. Neptune makes them see me as they want to see me. It also means i have a strong spiritual element about my life and how i project myself, the type of energy i am here to learn and embrace about myself - Crow- Sag/Neptune - Idealistic, spiritual, faithful, big dreamy ideas, etc.

The connection to Venus has Neptune playing a big role in my love life as well. My Venus is in the sign of Virgo - the sign of perfection, and because she is so connected to all my Libra (also progressed to Libra), it's about this Venus placement being perceived as the most beautiful perfect woman on earth. Remember, Neptune in Sag takes everything to the highest potential, over looking small imperfections that every person has in some way. Common interpretations of this placement will say that I want my woman (Venus) to be perfect and that i will be disillusioned later when i find out that she isn't while becoming nit picky about her traits, pointing out the imperfections, etc. However, that doesn't fit me. A better interpretation of this would be that, despite her imperfections, i only see the best qualities of her. It doesn't mean i'm not conscious of the fact that she's just human like everyone else and shouldn't be placed in such a high regard, it just means that i naturally see past that, perceiving the best of her, only, and not focusing on the negative. She might not even be the most physically beautiful woman on earth, but in my eyes and heart, she will be. I've never been disillusioned about that later.

Venus in Virgo also has an element of the goddess energy, especially when connected to spiritual Neptune in Sag. Virgo has connections to the ancient virgins that held the sacred flame for the community, and were highly regarded for this devotion of service. So this theme is always going to be connected to how i perceive the women i am most attracted to, and love - the sacred Goddess, that i have mass respect and love for. Don't worry though, I have lots of grounded earth energy as well, and it doesn't mean i'm not conscious that this is all fluff and a fairy tale to some degree, tho, ic an't repress it either. But what's the alternative? Only seeing her worst traits, pointing them out all the time like so many people do to their partners? Venus and Neptune connection is extremely sweeeeet and romantic more compassionate and loving to the feminine than the average Joe. This aspect really hasn't brought be any disappointment over time, other than feeling sad when the ultimate highest potential of unconditional love doesn't last forever, broken by her changing feelings over time, not mine.

Another way this aspect plays out is by me having an illusion that i'm some kind of ladies man', or something, projecting that image into my public life sector. lol, i know funny huh. This was most strong in my early years but has recently come to an end after facing my first real Saturn transit to my Neptune/Venus and Rising sign while Neptune transit square my Neptune bringing disillusionment about myself. I was just a kid the last time Saturn was in transit through these aspects so this is a huge maturing and grounding phase for me as Saturn begins to rise in my chart this next couple years, reflecting evolution to the next level of maturity in my life.

Saturn has forced me to get more real with this image that i see myself as. Because i truly believed this about myself in the past, it gave me confidence and the ability to have relationships with women that i normally wouldn't be able to. In my eyes, no woman was outside of my league. Again, funny, i know. These days, reality has set in, and i realize the truth, that i'm far from a pretty boy that can have any woman in the world. Ha. However, this aspect makes the woman, not have a clear understanding of what i look like or who i really am even when first meeting me in person. That's not my fault.  Neptune in my rising sign is no accident, i was meant to have this placement as part of my purpose, to perhaps soften reality about myself in order to accomplish what otherwise i couldn't. So i'm not going to beat myself up too bad about this. My moon placement at the apex of a T-Square shows the true reality of who i am.

But back to Neptune and Venus. I will always give more love, with unconditional acceptance to the woman i love, without demanding it in return, and i will always see her as the most beautiful woman on earth. Even if there is a few of them as the years go on, in the moment she is the one and only- the top goddess of them all. This doesn't mean i'm a total sap when in love. I still have a lot of Fire energy with my chart ruler in Aries trine my Ascendant (wink wink). I'm a very aggressive guy, more dominating than submissive, so i still like to have the upper hand in relations but there is definitely a sweet romantic side to me when it comes to sexual relationships. It should be noted however, that this is confined to my love life only and I don't perceive everyone in that light,with the highest potential-- it's only in regards to my Venus.

Having Neptune in the same sign as your Rising will make early life hard to fully see self in reality. However, having astrology is such an enlightening experience that I'm now fully aware of all my self illusions, but still don't have control over how others perceive me before they really know me, which i accept because it's part of my purpose to help get me where i need to go. This placement also allows me to romanticize mountains, and nature in general, same way as women - observing beautiful women in this world just as breathtaking as a divine sunset, or a mountain stream, and vice versa.

Another common problem with having hard aspects from Neptune is addiction issues. However, i'v never faced addictions, at least in the ways we commonly see them thru drugs and alcohol. My addictions is related to Venus - women, pleasure, love adventure, romance, etc. Also maybe sugar, which I've been reining in and controlling these days.

So the above is how all the so called negative with Neptune has been playing out for me, but compared to a lot of other people with strong Neptune energy, mine doesn't seem all that bad, and plus my Neptune is in positive alignment with all my Libra including my Mc, Mercury and Pluto which means my projections, perceptions, communications and opinions of the world and in career are very intuitive and instinctual, not deceptive, but rather has a element of deep spiritual truth and knowing that not everyone can see so clearly. So this is the positive side of Neptune for me. However, being able to take on the pain and suffering of the world also becomes strong which has been a long lesson of training to block and release those forces, while still being compassionate to those suffering.

Checking my chart using this whole signs system, really helps in seeing how this aspect plays out, that you couldn't see as clearly using other house systems. You might give it a try for yourself, and see how your life fits into that perspective. It does take objectivity though, which is easier for me having so much Libra. The one exception i have to using the whole signs system based on your Rising sign is if your Ascendant is in the last 7 degrees or so of the sign. Then, i would make the next sign the Rising and base all your 12 houses from that sign. Most people will have a resistance to that method though. I find it valid, as the next sign will be strong for you no matter what because over time, the next signs is what will begin to rise in your progressions at some point, having a strong influence to how you project yourself in later years.

Using this house system also makes following your transits easier. We can see Mars and Saturn are rising in my chart now and we just had a new moon with Uranus and Venus on my chart ruler Jupiter in the 5th house. In some other systems, Aries Jupiter is my 4th house. However, i find Pisces the most accurate when explaining my 4th house of home, family and roots. Yet, Jupiter in Aries plays a part in that too, so it's actually a combo that using any one house system wouldn't indicate. You need multiple perspectives to get the full picture. Jupiter in Aries in 5th house has fit my life very well, i'm a total risk seeker, loving adventures & thrills; a natural gambler (without addiction) and find romance one of the most enjoying factors of life. Danger has always been something that enlivens me, and Jupiter has given me lots of luck in those ways over the years, but i am far from only being a home-body that having chart ruler in 4th house would  indicate.

 I will say though  my 5th house Aries and Jupiter have progressed more into the 4th house at this point in my life, which is why i have big dreams and plans to build off grid community in nature with gardens and small alternatively constructed cottages for people that need time to retreat and heal, while being taken care of and provided for. So again, it's a combo of houses, not just one or the other.

This keeps things simple yet accurate. Not looking at degree orbs, helps understand what area of your life is being influenced by a transit.  For example: We can see that transit Pluto is in Capricorn, same sign as my moon and square to both Aries and Libra. It doesn't matter what degree, or if Pluto's influence is "exact" we still see the influence just being in the same sign and area of life.  So if someone has their moon or sun at say, 23 Capricorn and Pluto is only at 17 deg right now, that doesn't matter, they are still feeling the influence of Pluto in their sign and house. I think this "whole signs" perspective is very valid and helpful, but it takes being willing to look at your chart in a different way.

I guess i'll leave it at that. I just felt like sharing. You probably only read this far down if you really like astrology. Either way, thanks for reading! Feel free to leave questions or comments.
Cheers.
Rik.

Aries New Moon April 7 2016 - breaking free of control

This year's Aries new moon packs a punch. This will be one of the most powerful moon's we've had in a while. It will be exact on April 7 at 4:23 am PDT 18 degrees Aries, square Pluto conjunct Uranus! It does get a little complicated however because the ruler of this moon is Mars, which has been losing momentum, slowing down from the earth's perspective, preparing to station retrograde, which doesn't happen all that often.

This new moon is separating from a 1st quarter square aspect to Pluto. This is a sign that some turbulence will be building the days before this event, along with obstacles and challenges from power and authority that seem to hold a certain level of control over our life, or a sense of self control from within.

This leads us to facing a fresh start with new beginnings to how we work with these controlling forces in our life. This moon in Aries, is about self, independence, freedom, pioneering our life path, pushing forward with courage and breaking free from what has kept us in control this last year or so. A transformation process to certain areas of our life, self vs established order will unfold around the time of this moon, and it's sure to ruffle some feathers.

This moon gets even more radical, because it's applying conjunct Uranus, the planet of revolution, freedom and shock. This new moon could ignite the dynamic intense aspect that's been in place between Uranus and Pluto since 2012, which is the main reason your life and the world has been changing in so many ways since then.

This new moon wants personal revolution from all that has been holding you back and controlling what you can or can't do. How much personal freedom do you have in life? Are you in co-dependent relationships? Have you been giving your personal power away to others? Has the established order been suppressing your potential? How much time do you give to yourself vs others? What i'm trying to say here is that this is a moon to set new intentions for your personal freedom on every level and break free of these controlling situations keeping you down. It does take a warrior's spirit to initiate this process, so don't think it will be easy, and don't think you won't face retribution for your new desires and actions from those controlling authorities in your life, whether personal or from the outside world. It's up to each one of us to personally decide what is worth fighting for and what is not.

If you have personal energy points around 18 degrees Cardinal signs - Aries, Cancer, Libra or Capricorn, then it's very possible events in your life change in some way outside of your control that was unexpected and force this new beginning for self.  However, if you do have personal energy around those points than you have most likely already been facing major changes in your life for the last year or so if not more, and this new moon will be a new start to those areas that have been turbulent recently.

Mars will station on April 18 at the end of 8 degrees of Sagittarius, however, will remain at 8 degrees for the entire 11 days before turning retrograde after this new moon . This is the universal drive, action and motivation, so is moving extremely slow for the next month or so and then picks up momentum again as it's moving in backward motion, eventually reentering Scorpio but is directly related to this fresh start of the Aries new moon on April 7. Mars was applying square to Neptune causing some action and desires to be on the shady side, maybe not real honest in our actions for a little bit, but before that becomes perfect, Mars has to back track and find more reality for us, not letting fantasy or illusion get in the way.

Although this new moon energy is very powerful, Mars moving so damn slow could cause progress to be slow as well, and eventually, we'll have to go back and take action on matters from the past that we have already dealt with before, including some deep hidden stuff from the last several months. Don't get discouraged if your ideas and desires don't instantly manifest. Hold on tight to your new intentions and give them time. More progress will show up this summer into the fall, but this new moon will be the internal spark that ignites the passion for this process over the next 6 months. When we have an Aries full moon late summer/fall, these intentions will most likely be fulfilled by then.

Venus, the feminine energy has been in transit through Pisces for several weeks keeping relationship energy sensitive and romantic, dreamy and compassionate, seeing what we want to see, rather than what is, causing the feminine to be a little more dreamy and idealistic than usual. However, Venus moves into Aries on April 5, a couple days before this new moon. This will increase the fire energy within the feminine causing her (in all of us) to start focusing on our own personal desires, much more so than the recent past. Venus in Pisces can easily sacrifice its own desires and needs for the partner, but this changes when she enters the fire sign of Aries and gets her own fire lit.


This will increase passion, social directness and bring out the feminist in many a-ladies, as the universal feminine energy gains more confidence in self. Ladies, it's your time to go after what you want. If you've been waiting for a man or lover, or personal desires to find you, this energy will help you find them. You might notice women start to get more affectionate and direct, a little hot to trot' perhaps increasing sexual desire and need for excitement, fun and passion. It's best to let them come to you now. If the masculine comes on too strong, she could retreat out of rebelliousness or lack of interest because there's a lack of challenge for her chase.

Of course though, nothing is easy, and the energy won't be ideal for the lovers, as Mars the masculine energy is slowing down turning backwards. This gives a short window for sexual fulfillment - April 5 -April 13. Venus makes her 1st quarter waxing trine aspect to Mars on April 12, and this should be the best day for romantic and sexual activity where she is connecting to the masculine in a positive way, both on the same page, and both hot for excitement. Gentlemen, this will be the best day for getting some action, but you have to play it careful and let her take control,(for now anyway) not acting too eager, and you even might want to try and resist a little, give her a sense of a challenge. But careful dude, she might beat you up if you play too hard to get. Of course, this is all in fun and you should leave game playing for the young people, still keeping your integrity and honesty.

It's best not to get into new romantic or sexual relationships after April 13, as Mars begins to move backwards, sexual fulfillment between the lovers will increasingly be more and more difficult to achieve. It could be awkward, or something's off between the connection, etc, and later you might find that you two just are not compatible like you thought you would be in the beginning. This will increase frustration in the feminine because she is moving direct and fast, knowing what she wants. I guess, she'll have to master some self love, perhaps, until Mars gets back on track.

Mercury, symbolic of the universal mind, perceptions and communication style will also be changing signs on April 5, from Aries to Taurus until starting its retrograde phase on April 28, going back thru Taurus. This is about changing the mental focus to the physical and sensual. The mind slows down, becomes more conservative and traditional focusing on money and resources along with everything real and practical. Stubbornness increases with some mental laziness possible. Communication will also slow in speech. Desire for activities that bring pleasure to your mind and senses will increase. This area of life will need some deep thought, while Mercury is moving back and forth through Taurus until moving into Gemini on June 12 2016.

Well, that's about the gist of the changing energy before us. I hope the report was helpful. And remember, life is about changes, even for you fixed folks to some degree, nothing stays the same forever. It's best to initiate new actions now (on the new moon)and separate yourself from controlling factors, both from self and others.

Check your chart and find Aries, Libra - those are the areas of life that can find more freedom and new beginnings. Also Cancer/Cap to some degree as well. Example:  1st vs 7th house - self vs partner. 2nd vs 8th - your values and money vs other people's values and money. 4th/10 - home vs public life. etc..
Good luck!
Rik.